如何成为一位称职的父亲？ 3 ESSENTIALS EVERY MAN MUST KNOW TO BE AN ALL PRO DAD
一个好的父亲，不需要是伟大的发明家，不需要是无所不能的超人，也不需要是超级杯的大赢家，只要爱妻子、疼孩子、负责任，就是个好父亲。那么如何才能成为一个称职的好父亲呢？
It’s football season! From high school to college to the NFL, men are on the gridiron seeking to win and ultimately become champions. They’re digging, clawing, and giving it all they’ve got to come out on top.
此时正值橄榄球赛季，上至国家橄榄球联盟，下至高中、大学联盟，每一位选手无不热情高涨，他们奋力拼搏、全力以赴，只为获得冠军的荣耀。
It should be no different with fatherhood. We need men out there who are in the game—the most important game of their life—working hard and striving toward the goal to be the best they can be, to be All Pro Dads.Former head coach of the Pittsburgh Steelers and four-time Super Bowl winner Chuck Noll said, “Champions are champions not because they do anything extraordinary but because they do the ordinary things better than anyone else.”
这与父亲这个角色所要担当的责任并无二致。每一个家庭都需要一个能肩负起责任的男人——这是他们人生中所要扮演的最为重要的一个角色——努力工作、为梦想奋斗、做最好的自己，成为一个称职的父亲。匹兹堡钢人队前任主教练，超级碗杯四度冠军获得者查克•诺尔说，“冠军之所以为冠军，并不是因为他们做了什么与众不同的事，而是他们能够将一件普普通通的事做得比其他人更好。”
In other words, you don’t have to do spectacular highlight-reel type of things to be a Super Bowl winner. There are fundamentals that it takes to play the game. Executing those fundamentals day in and day out, that’s how you become great. That’s how you win. That’s how you become a champion.
换言之，你不需要去做什么壮举也可以成为超级碗杯的赢家。玩橄榄球是讲究基本原则的。日复一日地执行这些基本原则，你就可以变得更优秀。这也是你赢得胜利的关键，也还是你成为冠军的关键。
Just as knowing and executing the fundamentals of football are key to a player becoming an All-Pro, knowing and executing the fundamentals of fatherhood are key to a father becoming an All Pro Dad. And the two most important fundamentals for a father are love and leadership.
对橄榄球的基本原则烂熟于心，并不断地去实践，你就可以成为一个非常专业的选手；同样，父亲这一角色也是有基本原则的，只要你去遵循了它，你也能成为一个称职的父亲。对于父亲来说，最重要的两条基本原则就是爱和领导力。
Simply put, love is all about giving—giving selflessly and sacrificially to our wives, our kids and others no matter what it costs us personally. And your capacity to love will determine your capacity to lead.
简单来说，爱就是给予——为我们的妻子、孩子，以及其他亲人作出自己的牺牲。你爱的能力决定了你领导的能力。
In other words, when your spouse and children know you want what’s best for them, they’ll follow you. They’ll say to themselves: “You’ve loved me. You’ve earned the right to lead me. I’ll follow you.”
换句话说，当你的妻子儿女知道你这样做是为了他们好，他们就会支持你。他们会在心里这样想：”你爱着我。我应该听你的，我支持你。”
Here are three essentials you need to know to love and, in turn, lead your kids well.
下文就是你应该要知道的关于如何去爱，然后去领导你的家庭的3个基本原则：
Love your wife. For those who are married, actively loving your wife will radically strengthen your marriage and will also be incredibly beneficial to your children. The number one source of security for kids is when they know that their dad loves their mother and is steadfastly committed to her for life.
1.爱你的妻子。
对于已步入婚姻殿堂的男士来说，爱你的妻子不仅对这桩婚姻有益，还对你们的孩子很有益处。孩子需要的最重要的一份安全感就来自于他们的父亲对他们的母亲的爱，这份爱能坚定一位母亲对于生活的承诺。
When times get tough, remember that your spouse is not the enemy. You are on the same team.
当你面临困境时，你要知道你的配偶不是你的敌人，你们是自己人。
When my wife, Susan, and I have disagreements over things like disciplining our children or finances, she’ll often say to me, “Remember, I’m on your team.”
当我的妻子苏珊在教育孩子或财务方面和我有分歧时，她常常会这样对我说，”记住，我们要同舟共济。“
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